"Why are you this way?”

It’s hard to be with the difficult people in our lives, especially when they are family members. We may have grown up, become independent, and physically moved away from someone, or most of our family, but we can still carry their influence unconsciously wherever we go if something remains unresolved. We may have ended a relationship while retaining some of the resentment or broken-heartedness. Only we can know, in our moments of stillness and reflection, where we are at peace, and where we are still entangled with someone else. Love relationships and marriage will accelerate the learning our soul agreed to bring to us, and may show us how well we are doing with loving someone exactly as they are without wishing they were different.

A Constellation is like a drop of medicine in an ocean- a moment that begins to have a ripple effect. It’s not an ultimate healing way, but it can open a portal of healing energy for you and bring you a new way of seeing someone else. What you had carried as just a story in the family history may be cracked open to reveal the profound impact it had on the people who were close to it, and how it affected everyone all the way down to you. The entanglements we may have with the fates of others will limit some of the ways we’re open to life, and act as a soul drag on our evolution in life to become who we are. Releasing what’s not our responsibility can give us more liberation; taking adult responsibility for what is ours can give us more strength. Seeing another, as well as the burdens they carried, with new eyes can open the heart of compassion, soften our judgements, and help bring us to more peace and understanding.